As time get more challenging for many, often the pressure of financial challenges come to bear on ones relationship with our partners. In the past I have personally experienced this and I have and still see it in others I meet.
Money has a habit of magnifying problems that may exist in a relationship- particularly those relationships where a couple manages to "get buy" when times are good and when money they earn creates a comfort. Moving to a bigger home, buying a new car, TV or buying "something" to create a short term distraction from the real issues that sit in the relationship. However, when the finances get tighter, and such distractions cannot be "bought" then the real pain sets in.
Many of you know I have a passion for helping people not only in creating financial security, but also in getting a balance in their whole life - which most definitely includes your relationship. For those who read this and have an inner sense that maybe their current financial situation is creating or magnifying an issue in your relationship then it is vital that you address it now.
How do you do that?
It starts with an quite reflection on the fact that you are with your partner because you love them. Then an aapproach that needs to be open and non confrontational. A soft and honest aapproach where you let your partner know that you have been feeling a sense of unease between you in this area.
Ask them what concerns they have?
Ask them which area are they most worried about with regards to your financial situation?
Ask them what would they ideally want to see happen in order for them to relax and connect more with you?
This is a very sensitive subject but one that must not be avoided. Truth is, if you avoid it and the relationship goes sour and you part company. You will both carry the same patterns of behavior into your next relationship. Hence the importance of addressing it now and reconnecting with what you love about that person.
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