Rohan Weerasinghe

Money & Relationships

As time get more challenging for many, often the pressure of financial challenges come to bear on ones relationship with our partners. In the past I have personally experienced this and I have and still see it in others I meet.

Money has a habit of magnifying problems that may exist in a relationship-  particularly those relationships where a couple manages to "get buy" when times are good and when money they earn creates a comfort. Moving to a bigger home, buying a new car, TV or buying "something" to create a short term distraction from the real issues that sit in the relationship. However, when the finances get tighter, and such distractions cannot be "bought" then the real pain sets in.

Many of you know I have a passion for helping people not only in creating financial security, but also in getting a balance in their whole life - which most definitely includes your relationship. For those who read this and have an inner sense that maybe their current financial situation is creating or magnifying an issue in your relationship then it is vital that you address it now.

How do you do that?

It starts with an quite reflection on the fact that you are with your partner because you love them. Then an aapproach that needs to be open and non confrontational. A soft and honest aapproach where you let your partner know that you have been feeling a sense of unease between you in this area.

Ask them what concerns they have?

Ask them which area are they most worried about with regards to your financial situation?

Ask them what would they ideally want to see happen in order for them to relax and connect more with you?

This is a very sensitive subject but one that must not be avoided. Truth is, if you avoid it and the relationship goes sour and you part company. You will both carry the same patterns of behavior into your next relationship. Hence the importance of addressing it now and reconnecting with what you love about that person.

People Asking to email me

I am receiving more requests from people wanting to email me and asking for Mentoring or for me to come an speak at an event for them. My suggestion would be to visit one of my two main sites and contact me though the contact page:

www.rohanlive.com

www.rohanweerasinghe.com

Many thanks

Seasons Greetings - I am back

If you have been wondering why I have not been BLOGGING for a month it is because I have been away. And what an incredible month I have had...

In short we went over to the States to help on the Leadership side of Tony Robbins' Date With Destiny in Palm Springs. We were there several days before preparing and learning new Coaching and Rapid Change Skills before the main event started. For those of you who were there you will know what an amazing event it was. And to those who were in my Team - thank you for an amazing experience.

We then took off up the West coast of the USA (California) to have a really good look at the Real Estate Market. For me this was very exciting as I spent a month in Florida earlier this year looking at the Market there - so the comparison was valuable. I will be putting together a summary report in the new year for anyone interested - I will keep you updated.

Meanwhile - I want to wish everyone a fantastic vacation and seasonal celebration  - I look forward to sharing much much more with you next year...

What Is Money ?

I have a challenge for you. What are your beliefs about money?

Try this exercises - ideally do it with someone who you trust enough to challenge and push you, otherwise you will need to do it to yourself by keep repeating the questions. OK - here we go.Do not underestimate the power of this exercise.

Take a blank piece of paper and write the question "What is money ?". Now write down anything and everything that comes to mind in response to this question. As you start to slow down on what comes to mind - have the person you are working with (or ask it of yourself) - ask the question again. DO NOT vary it  - simply ask the question again What is money?

Write down anything that comes to mind - good or bad - it needs to reflect any thought, emotion, feeling, vision, second-hand experience or belief that you have about money. Everything and anything.

As you run out of steam - change the emphasis and try What is money - really?

Keep writing and then ask the question again So what is money - really? Do not hold back

Next step...

Next step...

Podcasts Are Coming In Strong

Those of you who know my good friend Nicola Cairncross will know that she is a BIG fan of the Podcast and its power in increasing your revenue on line. Well she will be happy to know I found another Raving fan on the aceofwebs website.

For those skeptics pf podcasts - have a read...

Getting ready to come into the office this morning and what should pop up on BBC Radio 4’s Premier serious news program - ‘Today’ but a great feature on how podcasting is taking the globe by storm, even here in the UK.

I have been truly been converted by the whole concept of Internet business, web-teaching and multimedia tools for helping create wealth and giving people alternative ways to learn and grow.

Cost Of A Shovel

Those of you have seen me teach have probably heard me use the phrase "never look at the cost of a shovel when digging for gold". I also talk about the need to "stay close to the fire" when you are on a path of learning and growth. ALL of us need a top of both motivation and knowledge - by attending seminars and keeping in touch with a coach-mentor we stay close to the fire that fuels our success and motivation.

When I run seminars I always emphasise the NEED to keep learning and growing - and in particular the need to have Mentors (the Master Mind Group as Napoleon Hill refers to them). You would be amazed how many people attend a two or three day event and then believe that they can simply go and do it on their own. It does not work like that. Just as Robert Kiyosaki says in Rich Dad Poor Dad - the path to financial freedom comes through a cycle of learning - doing - mentoring - doing -  learning etc etc.

The mistake people make is that they take the initial learning - then they start to do some things right and some things not so well. They do not  take advantage of a coach or a mentor so they don't know what they are doing wrong or how they could improve. So they reach a plateau very fast.

When digging for gold - remember that a true investor looks and value and return and does not negotiate their financial future. As my good friend Gill Fielding says - Ignorance is expensive!

There is a point in all our lives where we simply have to step up and make THE DECISION - I have learned through my own experiences and those of others that if WE don't make the decisions that move us forward - the circumstances around us will force us into a situation where we have to make a decision. True courage and passion is created when WE make the decision ourselves from within - so that we can stand tall and proud and know that we alone can shape our destiny no matter what happens.